This problem is acute in recent years in many families. Not all women have the opportunity to go to work for various reasons. Some women are forced to stay at home, caring for the baby, while others are in the last months of pregnancy.
But these women practically do not receive money from their husbands. And those women who work and invest the money they earn in the family budget do not receive financial support for the house from their spouse.
If this happens, you need to talk seriously with your husband. He must explain why he does not give out money. Many men are accustomed to slowly collecting money from their wife for large purchases and believe that a woman is able to squander all the money on completely useless things, so they are afraid to give money to their spouse.
But, in the process of saving, men, nevertheless, should not forget that there are such things as cooking, washing, separate products for the child. All these things also require significant funds, which, in principle, there is nowhere for a woman sitting at home to take. Yes, and a woman puts a lot of effort into washing and cooking delicious food for her husband, this also needs to be taken into account.
But a woman should not start such an important conversation with the words “Let’s finally talk seriously!” This will cause the husband to become aggressive, or he will simply be frightened of the conversation and try his best to avoid it. A conversation about the family budget can be started by saying: “You know, dear, I would like to discuss with you some issues related to the economic side.”
You can’t speak in a raised tone, you won’t achieve anything by this, but, after all, your main goal is to convince your spouse to give out money for household expenses, and, possibly, for you too. First of all, you must carefully prepare for the conversation. Make a list of the expenses that you incur when going shopping. For each product or item, list the price you pay (maybe your husband doesn’t know the price of groceries has doubled yet). Additionally, it is recommended to keep all receipts for food and household products. Let your spouse see where his money is going.
Naturally, you should not show other checks, for example, for a recently acquired, magnificent blouse. During the conversation, it will not be superfluous to find out what duties in the house for the economic part will be performed by your husband.
The best female strategy during a conversation is to ask for help and compromise. You should not go on the offensive, even if your spouse reacts quite sharply to all your comments. If the husband is categorically against it, ask him to argue his point of view. Perhaps he has some questions or wishes for you. It’s up to you to find out. Understanding, gentleness and the desire for compromise will help you resolve a controversial situation.
Probably, from the very beginning you yourself made mistakes when you tried to divide everything into “mine” and “yours”. For example, a refrigerator, most likely, belongs to the total cost, but it is unlikely that your husband will like it if you do not take food out of it at least once a day and cook food.
Usually two spouses invest money in the family budget. If you also contribute to the family basket, sit down with your husband and count him and your spending on groceries, pocket money, living expenses, and housing expenses.
Ask your spouse to notify you of additional large expenses.
The family budget can be created in different ways. You can, for example, invest the same amount in the family basket. The money you have left, you can spend as you want. Spouses do not have the right, at the same time, to control these expenses.
In the second case, all, without exception, the money should go to the family basket, but if any out-of-pocket expenses or a large purchase are required, the money can be taken from the family budget.