Have you ever said things that you later regretted? Probably, this happened to everyone and more than once. It is not surprising that in every nation there are proverbs like ours “My tongue is my enemy.” Let’s find out the features of this idiom, its exact meaning and when it is appropriate to apply it.
The meaning of the proverb
“My tongue is my enemy” – means a statement of the fact that a person has caused damage to himself in his own words: spoiled relations, lost any benefits, reputation.
So they say about incontinence in words, talkativeness, the ability to say too much. Sometimes people don’t think about how much trouble and negative consequences their words can cause.
One of the clearest examples of such behavior is described in Chekhov’s story “The Lost Deed”. An unlucky poor groom, in a fit of nobility, wants to dissuade a bride from a wealthy family to marry him. He was so eloquent that the girl accepted his arguments and refused to marry.
Is it worth describing the feelings of a man who realized that he himself dissuaded his beloved from being around? Examples of such recklessness are described in many literary works. We can often encounter them in everyday life.
The origin of the proverb
The proverb “My tongue is my enemy” is an accurate and concise expression based on observations of human behavior. The author of the idiom is the wise Russian people. Someone aptly expressed an idea that was picked up and disseminated. The meaning of this proverb is as clear as possible and does not require studying the etymology of words or historical references.
Interestingly, the proverb has a continuation. Here are some options:
- “My tongue is my enemy: it speaks before the mind”;
- “My tongue is my enemy: before the mind it prowls, it seeks troubles.”
Longer options clarify the meaning of the proverb.
There are many synonymous proverbs. Dahl’s dictionary contains such well-known and not very synonymous phrases:
- The tongue feeds and drinks, and flogs his back (another option – spoils the case).
- In a lot of speaking, there is no salvation.
- Better not to finish than to talk.
- The tongue chatters, but the head does not know.
- Think first, speak later.
- Language will not lead to good.
- It is superfluous to say – to harm yourself.
- Every forty is ginting from her tongue.
A similar thought is written in the Bible: “None of the people can tame the tongue: this is an irrepressible evil.” The same people talk about how to solve the problem: “Know a lot, but buy a little!”