It may seem that the child is just messing around, making scandals from scratch, or afraid of everything. But sometimes there are serious reasons behind this – perhaps the child needs a specialist consultation.
Here are the alarm bells telling you that you need to contact a specialist.
- Lack of interest… Usually, children are characterized by curiosity and a desire to discover the world around them. If a child does not have a hobby, he does not know what to do with himself, he is not carried away by any school subject – it is worth consulting with a psychologist.
His hobby was probably ridiculed at one point. Or maybe his parents are imposing his interests on him, and he is afraid to protest.
- aggressive behavior… If a child regularly acts as an aggressor, most likely he needs the help of a psychologist. At a very young age – about three years old – tantrums and anger can be a kind of “research”: what is possible and what is not, how parents will react.
But if a child continues to show excessive aggression at an older age, offends animals or peers, a psychologist will help to understand the reasons.
- Inability to correctly comprehend negative emotions… Often expressed in hysterics, scandals, fights with parents or other children, or vice versa – isolation in oneself, unwillingness to talk.
When a child is angry, upset, or offended, this must be acknowledged and expressed in sustainable ways: “I understand how you feel now … You feel this and that, because … Let’s do this and that now.” … The psychologist will teach the child to understand their emotions and cope with them.
- Increased anxiety and fears… A child who is afraid to join the game of football in the yard, read a poem in front of relatives during a family holiday or go to a camp should not be teased with a “coward” and shamed for their experiences.
Perhaps the reason lies in the psychological trauma that needs to be worked out with a specialist. Trauma in psychology refers to severe emotional stress and a reaction to a certain event that harmed the child’s mental health. He may have experienced violence or bullying in similar circumstances in the past.
- Problems in communication with peers… Sometimes children are embarrassed to join society, do not know how to make friends, do not communicate with anyone and always remain on the sidelines. If the child is a white crow, then a conversation with a psychologist will help him.
- Low learning motivation… Learning problems are a frequent request from a child psychologist. Sometimes it’s not so much a matter of specific gaps in subjects as of a conflict with a teacher or classmates. A specialist will help you figure out what the real reason is and how to fix the situation. Sometimes it helps to change the form of education.
- Dramatic mood swings… Emotional changes indicate that the child is in a tense and confused state. Children often react this way to difficult life changes: for example, a divorce of their parents or a move to another city. A psychologist will help you cope with an unstable mood.
- Frequent illnesses… If children get sick on a regular basis, there is most likely something wrong with their emotional state. External psychological factors – scandals in the family, humiliation from the teacher at school, bullying of peers, indifference of parents – affect the physical well-being of the child. All psychologists work with this, but you can turn to someone who specializes specifically in psychosomatics.