You don’t have to be a subtle psychologist to better understand people. It is enough to show a little observation, and many of the opponent’s secrets will become clear. Sometimes it is enough to listen to the conversation to understand what kind of person is in front of you by the manner of expressing thoughts.
Today we will tell you how to quickly establish a connection between a person’s words and his thoughts, between the manner of speaking and character. You can check it yourself and write how right we ended up being.
The fact is that the manner of speaking has many parameters in which information about a person is encrypted: intelligibility and speed of speech, pitch of voice, color of sound, breathing … But it is not easy for an inexperienced person to decipher these properties right away. But according to the words of the person, especially the words-parasites inherent in speech, the interlocutor is quite easy to see through. Let us examine today how the manner of speaking reflects the character and intentions of the interlocutor.
An abundance of diminutive words
Linguists are sure that such a person is simply hiding their real intentions, but it all depends on the type of words being changed. If a person speaks affectionately about personal items, then he is trying to secure the surrounding space, to domesticate it. If the interlocutor is treated with diminutive words, then they are simply trying to manipulate.
Derogatory nicknames for everyone
“Darling”, “fish”, “darling” is either an attempt to realize the dream of leading people, or a way to show your authority, or the desire to assert yourself. In the work collective, no one is allowed to give such nicknames.
Question instead of answer
This annoying way of talking is more common among people with poor upbringing, but there are exceptions. So know-it-alls and eternal critics like to manipulate the conversation with the help of questions, put pressure on the interlocutor. The same trait is inherent in suspicious people who, with the help of questions, check others, look at them.
Talk about yourself in the third person
Phrases like “mom is cooking food” or “dad went to grandma’s” can be said to a child. But if this manner of speaking prevails in other situations, then there are mental problems. So say either narcissists who think the world revolves around them, or people with unhealthy self-irony.
There are people who always give a detailed answer to even a simple question, often going far beyond the topic. In the process of a monologue, new associations are born that prolong it. This is typical for intellectuals who are in the clouds and have a poor idea of the everyday side of the world. The disputants who try to overwhelm the opponent with information have the same manner of speaking.
Such people always express themselves briefly and in essence, carefully weigh each word. This manner of speaking is characteristic of many young people today. This is the expression of either “techies” who are distinguished by a clear mind and know how to find unexpected connections, or those who are too busy to waste their lives on empty talk.
An abundance of inserted words
If speech is saturated with words like “shorter”, “perhaps”, “by the way”, “probably” and others, then the person is not too emotionally stable or not well educated. Here you need to look at additional confirmation of your guesses. In some cases, this manner of conversation betrays fear and uncertainty of the interlocutor.
Too many “I”
Narcissistic people like to talk a lot about themselves, who are inclined to ascribe to themselves even what a whole group of people has done. Here we are most likely talking about egocentrism, when the world revolves only around this person. Usually people avoid communicating with such a “yakal” or do not think positively of him, do not respect him.
Education is available to everyone and everyone can use smart words. But when a person uses pseudo-intellectual expressions to give weight to words, it’s noticeable and annoying. This manner speaks of the frivolity of a person, he is frivolous about his words. Perhaps he even specially memorized quotes in order to shine in conversation.
Phrases like “helped” instead of “helped” or “we protect” instead of “defend” are more typical for written speech, although they are also undesirable there. But if a person uses stationery in a conversation, he probably has a lot of paperwork. Or he is an ordinary poseur who thus gives weight to his words.
A person develops a manner of speaking for years. To some extent, it reflects the entire evolution of a person, his development from the first years of life to the present moment. It is not surprising that the interlocutor is unlikely to be able to skillfully fake the habit of talking. Then you will see through it.
If the interlocutor is disgusting to you or he says outright nonsense, then know what short phrases you can interrupt an unpleasant conversation with. This knowledge will be useful to every modern person.