FKA Twigs, a 32-year-old singer (real name Talia Debrett Barnett), has shared new details of her abusive relationship with 34-year-old Shia LaBeouf. We will remind that earlier she filed a lawsuit against the actor to hold him accountable for the bullying that he inflicted on her when they were a couple.
FKA Twigs gave a big interview to Elle magazine, and also appeared on TV for the first time since the scandal – Thalia spoke to CBS reporters. The actress’s new revelations shed light on what she had to endure.
The singer called it a real success that she still managed to break out of this unhealthy relationship. Barnett admitted that LaBeouf used “calculating, systematic, cunning and maze-like” tactics to end up pushing her away from friends and family and destroying her self-confidence so that she would not have the strength to leave him.
If you place a frog in a pot of boiling water, it will immediately jump out. If you put a frog in cool water and slowly heat it up, it will boil to death. This was my experience with LaBeouf,
– said Thalia.
Barnett also shared with the TV presenter her memories of how Labeouf plagued her with all sorts of suspicions, for example, announced that Talia was planning to leave him.
In addition, the actor could start a quarrel in the middle of the night and insult the singer, calling her “vile” and “disgusting”. For example, this was the case if Thalia did not fulfill her “duty”: LaBeouf set quotas for her to kiss and touch him a certain number of times a day.
The accusations weren’t true. But the fact of the matter is that your self-esteem begins to suffer, you doubt yourself. There were moments when I woke up and he said: “You lay with your eyes open and thought about leaving me.” And I literally just woke up. Then he wanted me to sleep naked, because if I didn’t, I would shut myself off from him. You know, this is a tactic that many abuser uses: everything should revolve around them. I think that’s why I wanted to go out and talk about it: there are certain bells that appear at the very beginning,
– said Thalia, noting also that if she refused to snuggle up to him in bed, Labeouf compared her to his former mistress, stating that she would not do that.
Among the signs that should make you wary and look suspicious, the singer named the excessive obsession of her lover, which she described as “love bombardment”.
He sent me 10 to 20 bouquets of flowers a day for 10 days. Every time I sat down to work or watch something, the doorbell rang, and there were three more bouquets of flowers. Each time the label read “More love”. Looking back, I understand that it was really a bit too much. It was embarrassing. Now I understand that this is really aggressive love,
Thalia remembered the very beginning of her relationship with Shaya before they moved in.
Living together also became a real test for Thalia. She confessed that before going to bed, LaBeouf forced her to watch documentaries about real crimes, which detail the brutal murders of women or sexual harassment.
I told him: “I don’t want to watch such things before going to bed. I am sensitive, it affects me.” I was very scared to live with him. He had a gun next to his bed and he was very unbalanced. I never knew what would make him angry
– said Thalia, admitting that she even took a picture of the weapon and sent the picture to her manager. She believed that if things ended tragically for her, this could be evidence that would help the investigation.
Thalia also recalled how Shia tried to test the limits of how far he could go in psychological abuse. As an example, she cited their vacation in Jamaica, where, jealous of the hotel and restaurant staff, the actor forbade Talia to look them in the eyes.
I have Jamaican roots, these are my people, this is my land. But this is how the abuser checks the boundaries, finds out if he can suppress you on your own territory. Yes, he could. And if he can, how far can it go?
The singer described what was happening to her as a lot of little things that eventually turn into one big nightmare and simply drain her strength.
Honestly, I would like to say that I found the strength in myself and went into the world. I would like to say that this is evidence of my strong character or that this is how my mother raised me. But nothing like that. It’s pure luck that I got out of this situation
– admitted FKA Twigs.