May 11, 2022
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6 Reasons Why Wedding Rings Are More Important Than You Think

6 Reasons Why Wedding Rings Are More Important Than You Think

This article was written by American pastor Dave Willis.

As a pastor, I officiate many weddings. This is one of my favorite parts of “work”. I get a front row seat for one of the most beautiful moments couples ever experience. I love watching the groom struggle to hold back his tears when he first sees his bride walking down the aisle. I love that the couple barely hears the words I say throughout the ceremony because they get lost in each other’s eyes and rejoice in the bliss of the moment itself.

I love everything about a wedding. One of the deepest parts of the ceremony happens when I am handed the wedding rings. I place the rings on top of my bible and talk about how beautiful they are, and watch the couple nervously put the rings on each other’s hands and look at them with the expression: “I will NEVER take it off now!”.

It saddens me that so many couples take them off. Sometimes this is due to very practical reasons such as skin conditions or work environments that are not conducive to jewelry, but in most cases the person simply chooses not to wear it and comes up with justifications as to why it is not very important.

Just as Frodo and the hobbits learned about it in Tolkien’s epic Lord of the Rings series, sometimes a ring can mean a lot more than you think!

Whether you wear a ring or not, it’s the FIRST thing people notice when they meet you, and they often make assumptions about your marriage commitment based on the presence or absence of a ring.

My grandmother was a widow for decades, but early in the marriage, my grandfather cheated on her with a few flings. She never fully healed from those wounds.

To this day, when she talks about someone, whether they’re a person she knows or a celebrity in the public eye (even pastors), one of her first observations is always either “he always wears his wedding ring” or “he does not wear a wedding ring.

She makes assumptions about a man’s honesty and his devotion to his wife based on a single ring. While this can be a very dubious indicator, many people make similar assumptions.

The ring is a tangible symbol that your spouse should hold in your heart, your schedule, and every part of your life.

From the moment you said yes, every aspect of your life is now connected to your spouse. Everything you do with your time, your words, your money, etc. will affect him/her in one way or another, so the ring is a simple reminder that everything you touch will affect your marriage.

Your ring is a symbol of respect for your spouse

Respect in marriage is measured not only by what we say. Often silent actions speak loudest.

Respect in marriage is transferred constantly (since marriage is a permanent relationship). The ring is one of the easiest ways to convey that respect ESPECIALLY when your spouse asked you to wear it and/or said it was very important to him.

If your spouse has asked you to wear it and you consistently refuse his request, then you are consistently reporting disrespect and ignorance of his/her feelings.

Your ring is your first line of defense against infidelity.

The ring is not a reliable defense against infidelity, but it is certainly the first line of defense. Wearing the ring subtly conveys the message: “I am married. I am faithful. My marriage is important to me.”

If you are trying to be “married undercover” by keeping your marital status a secret, you DO NOT VALUE it. Some people (who don’t respect marriage) behave this way.

But when you wear a ring, you can prevent many unnecessary temptations.

Your ring is a visible symbol to your children that your marriage matters.

If you have children, one of the most important lessons you can teach them is what marriage should look like.

Show your children the beauty of a husband and wife devoted to each other both in public and in private. It takes MUCH more than just a ring, but the ring will be the first sign of your feelings.

As I said at the beginning, there are some practical exceptions to this rule, but in general, when it’s just a matter of preference, why not wear a ring?

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