Manipulators do everything for their own purposes. They do not care about others and someone’s feelings. They only care about their own lives. Therefore, it is very important not to succumb to their tricks and not become their victim. How can you cut them out of your life?
Here are 5 tips to get the manipulator to leave you alone:
1. Be confident
Manipulators prey on people with low self-esteem. They feed on it like it’s a drug. And it’s easier to manipulate those who doubt themselves.
So you need to work on your confidence. If you radiate it and can defend your interests, it will scare away the manipulator. He will understand that you can hardly give orders.
Sometimes the manipulator will be more persistent. Therefore, you will have to protect yourself in the future. But one day he will give up and realize that you are stronger than him.
2. Be resilient
Manipulators are very cunning. They will try to get information from you, and then based on it they will try to get you to do what they want.
They can win your trust and hope that through this you will make concessions to them. But it shouldn’t be done. You must be resilient to what they tell you and not give in to their desires or lies.
3. Learn to say “no”
You can say “no” in any situation. And they can’t do anything about it.
Why argue or do something you don’t like? You can always opt out. “No” is a very strong word.
4. Trust only yourself
Manipulators make victims doubt their feelings and sensations. They will try to play the scene and say that your life is in shambles or that you are emotionally unstable. After all, it will be easier for them to manage a weak and doubting person. Thus, they will try to break you down and bend you to their will.
But don’t let them decide how you feel. Has there been any trouble? Leave the room and be alone with yourself. This is necessary for you to understand what you are experiencing.
Manipulators have no power over you or your actions and feelings.
5. State your expectations
If all else has failed and they are still persistent, say, “I want you to speak to me calmly. I want you to stop insulting me.”
Saying “I want you” or “I need you to…” will help them understand that they are not in control. You make demands on them. And, if they do not match them, decide for yourself whether it is worth communicating with these people.