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10 phrases that speak of hidden aggression

10 phrases that speak of hidden aggression

10 common passive-aggressive phrases that will help you understand exactly when they are trying to provoke you into a conflict, disguising your mood with rather harmless and mundane words.

Do not react to them, this is a banal provocation in a hidden form:

1. “I’m not angry”

Denying feelings of anger is a classic passive-aggressive behavior. Instead of honestly admitting their feelings and explaining what exactly caused them, the person will continue to assert: “I’m not angry!” Although at this time an emotional storm of global proportions may occur inside.

2. “Okay, whatever you say”

Pouting and avoiding direct answers or arguments is another classic passive-aggressive behavior. Instead of saying that they don’t like something and bring their arguments against it, the person closes up and answers the standard “Good” or “As you say, so be it.” Thus, anger is expressed in indirect ways and the door to open dialogue is closed.

3. “Yes, I’m already going!”

Just try to call the child to clean the room / do homework / wash dishes / sit down to eat something not very tasty. How many times will he need to be called? And in what tone will he say this “I’m coming!” for the tenth time? However, not only children do this, but also adults, if they really don’t want to do what they are called for. Thus, they are postponing the inevitable, at least for a while.

4. “I didn’t know what you mean now”

And this phrase is one of the favorites of procrastinators. If a person is given a task that he does not really want to do, he will postpone its completion by all available means. Accordingly, if he is asked if he has already completed the assigned task, the excuse will be the standard “I didn’t know that you mean to do it now ?!” This phrase means that this task is unpleasant for a person and it is unlikely that he will quickly complete it even after the nth reminder. And it definitely pisses him off.

5. “You just want everything to be perfect”

When constant procrastination no longer fits, a person finds another option – to blame the one who gave the task. The student did not have time to do his homework – the teacher is to blame, who wants everything to be perfect. The employee has exceeded the limit of funds allocated for the project – the employer is to blame for demanding perfect results for such little money.

6. “I thought you knew”

And with the help of this phrase, a person expresses his hidden aggression by deliberately hiding information that could help. Usually such concealment is carried out by petty dirty tricks or those who like intrigues. Did not show the letter, did not say about the call – any little thing can be used.

There was a conflict or embarrassment, but it turns out that you should have, like, been aware of that annoying little thing that led to all this. How did you not know? And I thought you knew…

7. “Of course I would be happy”

And this phrase is one of the favorite among service personnel, telephone operators or employees who deal with paperwork. They can smile at you as much as they want and as sweetly as they want. They may promise that your case will be considered in the first place, but … but most likely, the more stubbornly you insist on urgency, the further the decision of the issue will be pushed back. Up to the point that your papers may end up in the trash marked “Refuse”.

Very often, such people, whose job is to receive papers, consider themselves almost the center of the universe, as if everyone owes them and only the positive outcome of your case depends on them. Anyone who has applied for a visa at least once or handed them over to the office of the passport office will understand what is at stake.

8. “You did such a good job for a person with your education (qualification)”

But this can already be attributed to the category of dubious compliments. It’s like saying something like to a fat lady: “Don’t worry, you’ll get married soon. Some men like chubby ones.” And usually such “compliments” relate to age, education and weight. Very often used by those who want to offend you and cause unpleasant emotions. And at the same time, bribes are smooth from them, since they didn’t offend you, but made a compliment!

9. “I was only joking”

Sarcasm is another option to covertly express your aggression towards a person. You can say something nasty, and then immediately back down, “Well, I was just joking!” And any harsh response of the person at whom the aggression was directed can be turned against him again, saying that he has absolutely no sense of humor. Really, don’t you understand jokes?

10. “Why are you so upset?”

And after a ridiculous joke, you can ask why a person is so upset. In fact, such a person specifically asks such a question after an obvious situation, after which it would be strange not to be upset. In this way, he gets a hidden pleasure from what will throw you off balance again.

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